Colorado Technical University

Should i still stay with my relationship to my boyfriend if he say this!!?

I am 18 years old, 3rd year college student in Business Administration course while my boyfriend is 24 and a 2nd Lieutenant. We are about 8months in relationship. Then now, I was 4days delayed and I text him that I haven't yet periods.. then..My boyfriend replied that I must take a pregnancy test or any tablets in able for my period. After 4 days i haven't yet periods so i ask him what if its positive tomorrow? Will u be mad? He replied he won't get mad, he's just scared because he is not ready and its not in the right time, he did not even ask me what i feel. and if it will be positive, he said he surely cannot take it, to have the responsibility to stand with it. I feel very upset and cried when i read those messages of him. If he's scared, don't he think I'm not?. And only to find out this morning, (5th day) i have my period early morning then he texted me again if i take medicines or a test. then what is the result. I did not replied. Now, I'm confused if i will still informed him that i had my period already. I'm still upset of him, very very much!! please any opinions regarding my situation. I think he won't really stand with it, and before we did that thing, he knows I'm not safe that time coz 2 days after is my ovulation period but he said we will make it safe. I found out his reaction that he is really sure not to stand with it if ever. So i must tell him?and wait if he still wants to continue our relationship? And I am a Sk-Chairman in our place. That's why I am afraid too.

Public Comments

1. you have to tell him youve had your period, and your not pregnant. Right now he still thinks there might be a baby on the way! How can you leave him thinking that!? Of course he knows that your gonna be scared too, but you asked him how he felt, and he told you- whats wrong with that? theres no reason to be upset- anyone would have said that they are scared! and they should be- its a huge thing to deal with. But i bet, if you were pregnant, he would stand by you no matter what, because he knows he cant just up and leave. I think your thinking too much into the texts. Maybe give him call, and explain everything. tell him you were upset, and I'm sure he'll just say that you got the wrong end of the stick in that text. but youve gotta tell him your not pregnant! AND. if you dont want a baby,, you know how to NOT have one!
2. Men are pigs sometimes. They have NO IDEA how to handle pregnancy matters or women's problems. if that was his reaction then I would stop having sex with him until he is ready to handle the consequences of sex!! and tell him exactly WHY he isn't getting any.
3. So you went to college when you were 15? Anyways. Both of you have the responsibility to make sure that you will know what to do when something unexpected happens. If you are not ready for a baby, use better protection or just don't have sex at all. Tell your boyfriend that. You cannot depend on your boyfriend when it comes to protecting yourself. You cannot blame him entirely when something goes wrong. You have to take actions and make sure you are protecting yourself. Being on the birth control pill is not a bad idea at all. Having said that, all of my boyfriends I've dated in the past and had sex with, if I were to tell them I was late, they would all step up and take responsibility. We cannot tell you what to do. You need to talk with him and make your own decision.
4. To be honest,I must say that he is not a good man for you.If he does,he would take whatever responsibilities regarding you.Instead,he told you that he would not take the responsibility if you got yourselves pregnant.Maybe I am being too rude,but I think you should leave him.Try to find a right man that loves you with all his heart and the one who can be a good father to your children later. Or better you should concentrate on your studies and forget about searching a new boyfriend.