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how to be adopted by other families?

i've become so sick and tired of my family ever since i was in 4th grade. now, i'm the most fucked up person that i can think of. it's like my mom just gave me birth just to have someone to follow her orders. and until now, i'm 15, they make the decisions for me and wouldn't even recognize my perspectives. my parents are so full of pride about how each of them accomplished doctoral degrees and won't even listen to young people. they won't even remember any good thing that i do (there was tons of them!) they always review/flashback all the bad things that i've done to them from so many years ago, like they aren't so over it. they beat me up whenever i upset them and once tied a rope aroung my wrists and hanged me when i was caught hanging out with my ("bad influence") friends, they say those friends are the reason my fucking grades are dwindling. they haven't even bought me a cellphone (though my spoiled little sister has one) and didn't give me a regular allowance. they insist shop for my clothes and they crowd my shelves with boring books. i wanted to grow up and stand up of myself guys, but the only people stepping on the way are my parents. i stepped up and told them what i wanted once, but i didn't get the results i wanted. i just wanted a new life, out of my town, if some of you had survived this struggle that i'm currently having, please help me. thanks peepz!!

Public Comments

1. First of all your parents would have to give their consent, secondly nobody wants to adopt a teenager, especially one who resents his parents because they're trying to do a good job of raising him.
2. Im not exactly sure what the laws are in your state when it comes to this issue. But, to be adopted by another family, your parents need to agree to it by signing a legal document. One thing i do know is that when you're 16, you can get "separated" from your parents. You have to go to court for it. But it's kinda like a divorce from your family. I can say that i know how you feel, because when im 16, im getting the hell away from my family. I hate how they treat me. Best of luck. <3
3. obviously, you understand they can't stop time? If they are truly like that, just be patient. They want the best for you. Unless they are degrading you for no reason, then I would pick up those grades and start being positive. One day, you will be old enough to move out and do whatever you want, and then you will have no one to answer to. Please have faith and realize that someone has been in the same position, only worse than you.
4. What your parents have done is serious child abuse. "they beat me up whenever i upset them and once tied a rope aroung my wrists and hanged me when i was caught hanging out with my ("bad influence") friends" would be abuse and your parents could be prosecuted for such behavior. Do you have a relative or close friend you could stay with? Talk to a counselor or a trusted teacher. You need some help that is beyond the scope of what YA can do. btw, I don't think it's wrong for them to refuse to buy you a phone. That's their choice. But the fact that they bought a younger sister one shows they are showing preferential treatment. I'm sorry your life is so difficult. Your parents may be educated but that doesn't make them good parents or even smart. They are academic snobs and personally, one of my least favorite type of person. I wish you well.
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6. I don't think you understand how bad some children your age have it. Life could be so much worse. Your parents having expectations of you and rules isn't the worst thing. They shouldn't be abusing you, if they truly are and you aren't just exaggerating, tell a teacher or your counselor at school and they can help you. It is never okay to hurt a child. I would hate for you to leave your home though and end up in a worse situation and you can't go back. Try sitting down with your parents and have a civilized grown up conversation. Tell them what bothers you and discuss how to fix it.
7. why do you want to get adopted in in 4 years your 18 wait till then
8. Oh. Wow. Your parents won't buy you a cell phone. You're so neglected. *sarcasm* Stop whining, your life isn't that bad. Yes, your parents are rather strict, but they likely provide you with a good life in a nice home. And they'll probably pay for your college education, too, possibly at a considerable discount if either of them work for a university. You only have 3-4 years left in your parents' house. So straighten up, improve your grades, stop being such a whiny, rebellious brat, and maybe you'll get the treatment from your parents that you want.
9. "and won't even listen to young people." And today`s drug-addicted , brain-fried , semi-conscious , zombie wannabe , young people have something intelligent to talk to their parents about ?? Why don`t you just run away from home , and become President of the United States ........ or the CEO of a multinational financial conglomeration , or a brain surgeon ?? At 15 , you`re certainly mature enough , and have experienced the cruel , uncaring , violent world out there , and know everything there is to know ! Maybe your accomplished and self-made millionaire friends friends will help you out with room , board , spending money , etc ? Or are they just drug-addicted BUMS !