Colorado Technical University

What to do concerning this college woman?

I am currently a fourth year undergraduate student at Georgia State University with a declared major in psychology with the intent of going on to graduate school to pursue a doctoral degree in either neuroendocrinology or, perhaps, experimental psychology. That being said, last semester I was enrolled in an environmental psychology course where, seated not too far away from me (or at least, not all of the time) was a woman who I was very much attracted to ever since the start of the semester. Our first conversation took place about five or so minutes before our first exam that semester, in which she took the initiative in speaking to me. She disclosed to me that she had already graduated but was working toward a certificate so she could apply and gain admittance to an Masters in Public Health program. In retrospect, I think I came off as "eager-to-please", but we seemed to enjoy each others company. Her name was Jenny, she told me. We didn't really speak until the end of the semester, namely, the day of the final. (Prior to the final exam, however, I had caught her looking at me on more than one occasion, and she had glanced over, quite obviously, one day as I signed my name on the attendance sheet). As I was seated outside of the classroom with notes in lap, Jenny came over and stood over me. I looked up at her, said hello, and we chatted for roughly ten minutes. It turns out that she had been dishonest with me: it turned out that she was 28 years old, attended and graduated from Cal State- Northridge where she majored in English, obtained a 2.8 GPA, got rejected from every MPH program she applied to, and enrolled at GSU to pursue another B.A., this time in Sociology. She said she had been trying to figure out what my last name was; I told her that my father was Indian any my mother Spanish. Somewhat intrigued, she mentioned that she has family the world over (I suspect, just going by outward appearances, she was asian). Jenny then started talking about the multi-cultural babies her friends had and how beautiful they were. She said she hopes her husband will be multi-ethnic; she turned and looked at me in a flirtish way. The professor arrived; she sat on the opposite side of the class; we took our exams (I finished first). As I was talking with my friend Sarah on the ground floor of the building, Jenny came walking down and wished me a happy summer. That was that. Today, I saw her in the library, but was reluctant in speaking to her, given that she looked deep in concentration studying for a particular class. Now that I know where she studies, what would you advise?

Public Comments

1. I'm guessing you're 20 or 21 years old. I think she's too old for you. Not that a 7 or 8 year age difference is a big deal but what I mean is you're in totally different stages in your lives and you're bound to clash at some point. But go for it, see what happens. It could be the worst mistake you ever made. Do it anyway. My nana used to say to me "don't make the same mistake twice. Get out there and make brand new mistakes." It could be an amazing experience. There's so much crap in this world, if you find something good-- I want you to have it. I wish you the best. Go get her, Tiger ! Grrrrrr.....