Colorado Technical University

I continued my educ./advanced my career - husband chose not 2 had 1st dibs - will I have to pay alimony?

I gave him the opportunity 1st. I supported, guided, assisted, did his resume, ect. Gave 1yr. deadline. He did nothing. I did. I haven't stopped - make 3x his salary, but did so for our family. Will I have to pay him alimony? He has huge debt he created in his name only, gambling, extended medical leave when able to play golf, house in my name by trust of my late mom, I paid off all my credit 6 yrs consolid. alone - tried to convince him - no luck. I am going for 3rd masters starting in Sept. trying to further career more for children. Help - he has screwed my boys and I far 2 long and has never made an effort to better himself for the sake of his children - rode the small gravy train and treated me like shit. Has no follow through, I have raised the children, and he has dragged us all in a financial fire!

Public Comments

1. Find a good attorney. You may not have to depending on what state you are in ect.
2. In my state the woman gets the kids. I am no legal expert but if you have the kids I do not see a judge making you pay him alimony. He may have to pay a smaller amount of support but I just can't see an alimony payment in your future. That would be ridiculous if you ask me.
3. It is completely going to depend on the state you live in and your lawyer! I imagine it will also depend on how long you have been married, which you didn't mention. Also, if you get custody of the kids then I wouldn't think there would be a reason for you to pay alimony. I can't imagine a judge granting him spousal support if he has a job and you have the kids... that just wouldn't make sense. Just make sure you get a REALLY good attorney!!! And try to make sure that you can get as much stuff in order as you can before you kick him out and file!!!
4. Get a good attorney, and go for full custody of the kids. It's your house from your family, so he needs to move out. He's got a job, he can support himself. If you do make good money, you don't even need to ask for child support but that's up to you. You shouldn't have waited so long. Good luck.
5. OK superwomen! maybe education comes easy to you, I'm not going to excuse his behavior, but it sounds like your do anything and you can do everything. So what are you leaving for him to do. Your making 3x his salary and you issued him an ultimatum. You are very bossy, and sounds like you've trampled on his esteem a time or two. Maybe just maybe he treats you poorly because of your treatment toward him. You raised the children, so I can only imagine what their image of their father is. You've had affairs, and now your ready to move on, now that the children are grown. Get a divorce, to recieve alimony he will have to prove infidelity on your part.
6. I'm not a attorney, but if he is working, no alimony. Depending on what state you married in is a factor. He should have to pay child support and be responsible for his own debt. Did you sign any where on these debts? Good for you on your Masters! One thing I can't stand is a lazy bum.